Over the past year I have lost 20 pounds, gained a few back, and then found my average, the weight I am comfortable with based on my height and bone structure and rectangular shape. I am an older woman who is retired, and because of a limited income I can only do so much with my clothes and social life. I am trying to be the person God wants me to be at this season of life, but sometimes it feels very discouraging. I sense that a number of women on this blog are younger and still have time to correct their mistakes, but I do not. I want to enjoy shopping, feeling pretty, and getting out there and embracing life, but I never seem to fit in. I just never feel like I am the right person at the right time. I know this goes beyond clothes, but wondering if anyone out there has these same feelings, and if so, how did you overcome those issues?

Hello there AH. You sound really nice and I'm sure you do fit in really. I know people, young and old, who have felt much better when they have started voluntary work for a few hours a week, having other people to interact with and a feeling of purpose. I think it's important to get out of the house, if you can. Don't sit around too much. As to your question about shopping - do you know which colours really suit you - warm colours versus cool colours? You can find information about this on MSP's site and other sites. Wear those colours that suit you, near your face. A little makeup if you wish, earrings and a pretty hairstyle. Very best wishes to you.

Great advice from Natasha. Volunteering is a great idea that ends up giving as much or more to the person volunteering than to the actual cause. As for fitting in, just make sure you volunteer for something that you are passionate about and that expresses your genuine self. You might think about the things you enjoyed when you were 8 or 10 years old, before peer pressure set in, then adopt the adult version of those activities. If you are doing something that you are passionate about, you might find kindred spirits that share your same values. There are more of us older girls on here than you might think! Glad you posted, AH.