Aging and scared

Started 7 years ago. There are 4 replies by 3 different members. The latest reply was from wonderer.
  1. After taking care of my mother for the last 6 months of her life, I neglected myself. Today I finally got brave and looked in a mirror, and holy moly I have aged. So much more grey hair,and dragging face, and an extra 15 pounds. I decided to join this site, and of course right away I chose the wrong body type, and am trying to get that changed. I hope to find the help I need, to start feeling better about myself.It scared me a bit, realizing I have changed so much that my body type is foreign to me, and I feel bad in the clothes I have. I don't know how to dress for this new body type and hair color. I cannot use hair dyes, as I have kidney disease, so that isn't an option. I have to learn to like what I have become, and it is very very difficult to do.

  1. Take a deep breath. Relax. Bless you for taking care of your mom; she was the most important thing for you to do at that time and you made the right choice. You didn't "fall" out of fashion overnight and you won't fix it overnight either. Body change is easy, just email customer service and they will change it in a day or so. As for the weight, if you take it off great and if not MSP will steer you right on what to wear to look good. We had a great discussion going about a month ago an going gray. So check out this link and feel free to post more on it and the topic will come back to the top of the list for people to comment on again. http://www.missussmartypants.com/index.php?route=forum/post&topicid=1447 Let us know how we can help more. We all had to start someplace. Each of our stories on how we became unfashionable is a bit different but in the end MSP will get us looking good. Blessings ~Gwen

  2. Hugs to you. Beauty comes from the inside and your giving attitude to your mother says a lot about a beautiful woman. Outer beauty fades... or at least changes. There are so many women (e.g. check out gray hair on Pinterest someimte!) that are embracing going gray as a beautiful and even fashionable option that I've been considering it myself. So much of beauty is about attitude, confidence, and acceptance. I think the scary thing is whether you still feel relevant as we age. My husband and I often talk about the difference between age as a number and being Young At Heart! I know 20-somethings that seem like they are aging quickly and 80-somethings that have vibrancy. The weight and the age are just numbers! They do not define you and by your interest in Leslie's site, you're going to shine.

  3. Maarite, welcome! You've done a wonderful thing for your mother, giving her your love and attention. Now you deserve to focus the same love and attention on yourself. Getting used to loving yourself will take a lot of practice (trust me...), but you can do it! One thing that might help is a new haircut -- it'll make your well-earned grey look more stylish and elegant. Like Gwen says, "fixing" your style will take a little bit of time, so don't worry if it doesn't all come together right away. Even little changes can make a big difference. Best of luck, and keep us posted!

  4. Psst...did you see this week's article? It might have been written just for you!

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