Going gray...

Started 8 years ago. There are 16 replies by 12 different members. The latest reply was from scdorcheus.
  1. Okay, I must say this and I sincerely don't want to offend anyone. To me (at 62) I relate gray hair to grandma's... those in rocking chairs holding their grandchildren and weiener dogs. Today is a different time period. I discussed "going natural" with my hairdresser and she said I would look like my grandmother (not mother). So I trusted her opinion and will color my hair (I do it myself) until you cannot pry the brushes out of my cold, dead hands. Want to make your husband feel like a really old man... go gray. Want to add 20 years to your age... go gray. Come on ladies, yes it is a pain every 3 weeks (for me), but so is getting out of your pj's in the morning. Mark it on your calendar, put on some great music and do your hair! In 45 minutes you'll feel like a new woman when you get out of the shower and don't see snow in your hair. Once you feel so good about how you look, maybe you'll want to get out of the pj's and slippers and enjoy your youth. So that's my advice for the day and as usual, we are at the age where we can take it or leave it. Just give it a try!

  1. Sorry, didn't know that I sent this twice... must feel really strong about this topic :) Also, how many beautiful role models wear gray hair? Although I realize that at our age, role models (actresses, anchor women, people generally shown in the public a lot) we are not supposed to care what others think; but reality does dictate how we feel about ourselves and again, how your partner in life is attracted to you. Just my opinion!

  2. I'm in agreement. I'm a few years younger than the writer, but not much. I started to have noticeable grey in my light brown hair at 26. No way. Until 35ish, I got away with very fine streaks in varying shades of blond that only had to be done three times a year. After that, I went whole head, with a few highlights near my face. Other than going a few shades lighter (started with dark ash blonde) and more "gold" on the blonde, I have changed nothing, and don't intend to. The mistake most make is to keep their hair either the shade they had at 21 or darker. You need to go a few shades LIGHTER. Your skin fades as you age as well. The women with beautiful long grey hair (really, it's more like silver, shiny and sparkling) are very few and far between. Their hair is thick, in beautiful condition, and they have a skin tone that works with it. I'm pretty sure most of us don't. Same with length. MOST women look better with their hair somewhere between chin and shoulders. NO reason to chop it into a pixie cut (unless it suits the rest of you) just because some arbitrary age has been reached. A good stylist can make even thinning hair look good longer.

  3. I agree with color! My hair was auburn and instead of graying normally, I have a sort of diluted ice tea tint to my hair. Gingers do not gray well. My brother has silver hair and on him it looks, same gene pool and his hair is totally different. I also have my brows dyed because while not gray they have faded to an iced tea color.

  4. I've been coloring my hair for the last 15 years and decided to find out what my natural color is so I haven't since May. I think the last of my coloring will finally be gone at my next haircut. I'm kinda liking the salt and pepper look. Not sure if I'll keep it but I've realized that I've probably been going a little too light. Darker is complimenting my eyes and skin. And I think a lot of older women with hair from chin to shoulder look older because that length can drag their face down. YMMV

  5. I've been coloring my hair for the last 15 years and decided to find out what my natural color is so I haven't since May. I think the last of my coloring will finally be gone at my next haircut. I'm kinda liking the salt and pepper look. Not sure if I'll keep it but I've realized that I've probably been going a little too light. Darker is complimenting my eyes and skin. And I think a lot of older women with hair from chin to shoulder look older because that length can drag their face down. YMMV

  6. I've been coloring my hair for the last 15 years and decided to find out what my natural color is so I haven't since May. I think the last of my coloring will finally be gone at my next haircut. I'm kinda liking the salt and pepper look. Not sure if I'll keep it but I've realized that I've probably been going a little too light. Darker is complimenting my eyes and skin. And I think a lot of older women with hair from chin to shoulder look older because that length can drag their face down. YMMV

  7. I've been coloring my hair for the last 15 years and decided to find out what my natural color is so I haven't since May. I think the last of my coloring will finally be gone at my next haircut. I'm kinda liking the salt and pepper look. Not sure if I'll keep it but I've realized that I've probably been going a little too light. Darker is complimenting my eyes and skin. And I think a lot of older women with hair from chin to shoulder look older because that length can drag their face down. YMMV

  8. How did that happen?

  9. I have no problem with anyone who wants to dye their hair but I must be in the minority because I don't intend to. My grandmother went silver almost overnight as a result of sulphur drugs she was given when my mother was born. So she was silver grey (almost white) from the age of 29 and I never thought of her as old because of her personality and enjoyment of life. My mother used to dye her hair dark when we were young but when she stopped she had the most gorgeous salt and pepper colour with a silver streak at the front which I thought was very stylish, especially when her hair was freshly cut and styled. My hair is a dark ash blonde and I find the odd silver or white hair even now but I don't think anyone else can pick them. Occasionally I get highlights coming into summer if I have special occasions to attend (like weddings) and my hair bleaches quickly if I'm out in the sun which lightens it up. Other than that I think I will try to concentrate on keeping my hair well cut and styled because I really can't justify the cost and time to keep colouring it. There are so many other thing that I prefer to do. On the other hand I have some friends who are naturally dark and going grey at a young age, so I quite understand why they choose to dye.

  10. My hair is getting white strands...I have a white streak going in the front and my husband likes it. My hair is a dark blond naturally, so the white is actually brightening things up. I get high-low lights every 2 months or so and will continue until my hair is all white...but it really doesn't bother me all that much...actually being a little bit older doesn't make me feel bad. I like myself so much more in my 40s than I did I did in my 20s...I like to keep it in a fresh style and that makes me feel good. Just say "No." to Farrah hair...lol!

  11. I've colored my hair for years. I'm 65 now and I considered going gray a few years ago, but instead went with subtle highlights. I love this look! Perhaps when I retire I'll go natural, though. Barbara

  12. I'm 57 and have been going gray since my 20s. I color it, not just to hide the gray, but because my hair is thinning and if I leave it go white, I can see my scalp. So, until they come up with a way to recover all my hair again, I'll keep coloring. My hair is naturally dark, so that's what I stick with. My doctor still doesn't believe my age, he keeps insisting I'm in my early 40s. For those who let their hair gray naturally, I think it's awesome. It doesn't age everyone and many look amazing. It's what each woman is comfortable with Yes, I've tried it all: ridiculously expensive shampoo, Rogaine, Biotin vitamins, everything except Hair Club and transplants.

  13. I am just dealing with white hair now, for the first time. I just turned 40. There isn't that many, yet, but i have noticed due to stress(My husband was in a rollover car accident 2 months ago), I have much more coming in. I have natural curls, so the white gets lost in the chaos, for the most part. I decided that I will just use henna for now. It's a nice herbal treatment, that I enjoy at home, for about 4 hours. I used it a couple months ago, and the whites turned a nice golden brown instead of being the deep chestnut the rest is, and it all softened up. So I think it'll be a nice progression to a slightly lighter shade as more and more goes white. I can't afford to get it colored professionally, but the henna is $7, my hair is so soft afterwards, that I think it's a nice option. Once it's more white, not sure what I'll do, if I'll fight it, or just let it go natural. I'm not 65, just turned 40, and agree some people going grey really ages them, but sometimes I wonder if it's a bad cut that does the worst aging, rather than color.

  14. I don't like to color my hair but I do it. I am 58 with thinning hair, natural color very dark brown. I wanted to be one of those women with lovely silver hair. Unfortunately mine is salt & pepper and makes me look washed out and much older. Katnap, if you find a solution to thinning hair, please let me know!

  15. I've colored by hair for 30 years, and wanted to continue after I retired last year. However, I didn't want to continue the expense! So I tried the Paul Mitchell School in our town, and they did a fantastic job. Acutally, the instructor worked out a more flattering color that also looks better longer than any of the stylists I've used in the past. If you have a Paul Mitchell School in your town, give it a try! My color service there is just $30. The cut and styling are just $12 and I've been happy with that too.

  16. I am in my late 40s and my blonde hair started graying a few years back. I love them - silver and crazy - and cannot wait until the transition is over. I am a very low maintenance person but I do the following; have a clear color treatment every two months to add shine and to make the crazy silvers more manageable (I still have stick straight blonde hair), use a shampoo for silver, gray and blonde hair (it takes out the orange brassy colors),condition with coconut oil or egg whites every couple of weeks and get a fantastic up to date cut and styling when needed. I am always complimented on my hair and I am happy with the way it is. I think that is the key... Do what makes YOU happy! There is no right or wrong.

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