7-8-19 THIS WEEK: Style Challenged No More

July 14, 2019, 11:05 am by MSP


It starts by giving yourself permission. You really can become that woman with fabulous style. It can be your reality.

I know you've all seen her; a woman who's style is so chic. You envy her, and even though her body is not "perfect" she has "it"...something that makes her look so appealing and vibrant. It's that "something" you wish you had.

The first step to better style is to give yourself permission. Permission to explore what it is that holds back your style. More than likely, it is several things: it's part not knowing what is stylish for you (and your body type) and part feeling that you are not worthy of an improved image (self-sabotage). 

We are often our own worst enemy. Usually it is us that holds ourselves back from being our best. We stop short and then make EXCUSES why we can't do something. It is self-sabotaging behavior. Those negative thoughts creep in and hold us back from updating our style, or from doing whatever else we deem worthy yet fear we might not be good at. Sometimes it's guilt that tell us 'NO' you don't deserve it, it costs too much, or you might not be successful so you shouldn't even try. Does this sound familiar?


Out-of-step with your style? 

THIS WEEK: Become "Style Challenged No More"


"Self-sabotage is when we say we want something...and then go about making sure it doesn't happen." 

~ Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby


Stop the self-sabotage. You know the feeling...when things are going right and it gets scary; so you self-sabotage as a way to control the situation--but you actually end up hurting yourself. If you are prone to this sort of behavior, use these tips to help you hit the "RESET BUTTON" so you can try again:

1) Survey what you are doing

Stop justifying why you did (or didn't do) this or that; just watch yourself. The adage "Don't listen to what people say, but watch what they do" can be applied to yourself. Imagine you're someone else whose watching your behavior. Ask yourself: Why did I act that way? Was it the need to be in control (even if that control is related to making things fail) or was it the need for excitement through conflict, or the desire for attention or sympathy from others?

2) Success is not black or white

Imagine what true success will be like. It may be different from what you'd been unconsciously assuming. Successful relationships, for example, don't work well all of the time; earning more money won't solve all your problems. Success isn't black or white; it's all relative. So remember that becoming successful (in whatever way) won't feel so strange when it happens because it's a natural part of being human - but the idea of success may feel strange.

3) Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater

People most often self-sabotage because of theiperfectionism! They say to themselves if it isn't perfect, then what's the point? You may have heard that people on strict diets trying to lose weight will more likely overeat if they feel they have veered off their diet even slightly: "What the hell, I've totally blown it now. I might as well completely binge!" People not on diets don't do this as often. So if you have a little setback or mini-failure...consciously stop yourself from throwing it all away. STOP seeing things that go 'a little wrong' as wrong and therefore ruined completely.

It might be a little scary—but this is actually going to be fun! This week at MissusSmartyPants we will explore how to take steps to change our attitudes (and mind set) to CHANGE OUR STYLE. 

You are stronger and smarter than you think from any excuse that holds you back. Fabulous style can be yours! (Time to nix those negative thoughts: I can't possibly be stylish unless I lose 20 pounds, or declutter my closet first, or should wait until my kids grow up, or now I'm too old to even bother). It’s time to take a leap of faith and begin embracing better style! Give yourself permission to let your style FLY (Finally Loving Yourself).

Are you this woman who has put everyone on top your priority list--except yourself?

It's time to take steps to better style--and feel better about YOU!


Improved style it not selfish! This week with MissusSmartyPants help, you'll learn how to stop the self- sabotaging behavior. Renewing your style will rejuvenate your spirit like nothing else! Let's put an end to the excuses and start giving yourself permission to look and feel fabulous!


Isn't it time to re-discover your style? Get affordable help with MissusSmartyPants!


MSP's Weekly Style Mission

This week’s Style Mission: It's a jewelry box raid!

Dig in to the depths of your jewelry box(es) and pull out a few forgotten "vintage" pieces like statement necklaces, interesting earrings, unique brooches, lockets, etc. Anything you haven't seen in awhile. This week we give 'em a second chance to help you "Show Your Style" SYSter!

Got a long strand of pearls you never wear? How about layering them, along with a long-chained locket for an eclectic look or simply tie them in a knot! Pull out a one-of-a-kind bracelet and plan an outfit based on the colors of that bracelet (you can do this with a brooch or scarf as well). Get creative and have fun making up "new" looks with long-lost jewelry!

My 2 jewelry boxes and 2 top dresser drawers (yes, I have 2 large drawers packed full of jewelry since I previously owned a jewelry business). They are in desperate need of organizing and there’s lots of great stuff in there I really should be wearing. 

Join me and challenge yourself this week with both... this Style Mission and with this week's article "Style Challenged No More"!


Cool necklace ideas for you.

 Wrap a strand of pearls around your neck several times--then add a brooch.



Love, Leslie MSP

What SYSters are Saying



I've been a member of msp for some time and quite enjoy it. I save money now that I know what clothing to buy. My closet is leaner than when I first subscribed to your service but I actually have more wearable clothes. I feel so confident now that I know how to put together outfits. People say I look "put together". Haha, you have to love that!!! 

Thanks, Rose

"Help! Company is changing dress code!"

Dear Leslie,

My company is going from casual to business and business casual.  Can you give some ideas how to update my wardrobe on a budget?  

MSP HERE: Dear Gail,
A business casual environment allows you to work comfortably while it expresses a professional working culture. This means not all casual clothing is acceptable. Things not to wear: anything you would do the yardwork in, exercise in, attend a sporting event in, or wear to a night club. Any clothing that shows too much skin, too low cut, high cut...well, you get the picture.
To update your work wardrobe on a budget, create a small work capsule. It should include: several nice slacks, several skirts and/or dresses (if you wear them), a small collection of pretty blouses and tops that coordinate with the bottoms. To keep your look professional, avoid sleeveless tops and always add a few jackets (include several short-sleeved jackets and a few regular blazers) to complete your work capsule. Your shoes should be modest, classic and well made. Add complementary accessories and you will look fabulous every day!
Your look will be a bit more dressed up, but you'll feel more professional. Always error on the side of dressy vs. casual. When in doubt about something, always ask HR before wearing it!
Below is an outfit suggestion for summer at the office. Love, Leslie MSP