7-12-16 Super-Casual Mommy Style

July 11, 2016, 3:03 pm by MSP

 

Super-Casual Mommy Style

Dear MissusSmartyPants,

I am in need of some serious TLC! Just 6 month’s ago I became a first-time mom to a sweet little girl. I'm a stay-at-home mom, so I don't need much in the way of clothes, but I do need some help getting out this rut.

Right now, I’m in that awkward stage where I don’t fit into my pre-pregnancy clothes, but my maternity clothes are too big. I also don’t want to spend a lot of money on clothes while losing this baby weight. My current go to outfit is a big t-shirt and yoga pants. What advice can you give to this busy, still need to lose some baby weight, mom on the go? Anything that especially covers up the midsection or hips would be awesome-and oh, budget-friendly is a necessity!

I just want to feel like “me” again, and I fully believe dressing the part will help me get there!!

Thanks, Haley

P.S. Here are a few photos of me and my baby girl

                  

MSP HERE: Dear Haley,

Thank you for your question. It's such a good question, it deserves a complete article showing how you can reclaim your style, post-baby!

After any major life event, such as having a baby, changing jobs (dressing up more), retiring from a career, etc. women must adapt their wardrobes to reflect these changes. So, while this week's article is for moms-it can also be used for retired women, etc. with just a few tweaks.

Many new moms complain they can't be stylish because:

_Their body has changed

_Lack of time (to shop, plan outfits)

_Can't find clothes that are practical/comfortable

_Not enough money to buy new clothes (money goes now to kids)

_Lack of sleep (not enough energy to care)

Another new mom just wrote me saying...“I’m just so tired that my care factor is zero. I also have many issues, such as, finding something comfortable and practical but that doesn’t make me look frumpy and doesn’t break the bank. I also hope I will lose weight, so don’t want to spend money on clothes that will potentially be too big for me in the future. Who am i kidding!"

Obviously, you are not alone. Moms need help! I'm happy to dedicate this week's article to Haley and other young moms. The best part is, even if you aren't a stay-at-home mom, you can interpret this article's suggestions for your weekend attire, or for your casual retired looks!

Love, Leslie MSP 

This week is dedicated to moms everywhere!

P.S. Even if you're not a mom...you're going to love this week's helpful information.

 

Need help with your mommy style? Go figure, as a mom you're BUSY! A mom's day-to-day life can be like a juggling act-trying to keep all the balls in the air. This is what busy moms do. There is no doubt about it, when you are a mom--life is on the go. Often practicality makes us feel we must give up on style. For example, when babies spit up on you, you've got lots of errands to run, or you are only staying at home—you think why bother? No real need for makeup, or dressing well, and before you know--practical and frumpy takes over your looks and life!

Women have a way of giving so much that there is nothing left for them. You don’t have to be a martyr in order to be a good mother. No need to lose your sense of style, or identity either. You can do both—have style and be a great mom! 

The fact is, being a mom that dresses nicely and cares about her appearance is actually teaching her children an important lesson. She is telling them how an adult woman, mother, and wife, should take care of herself. Set the example for your children by showing them how you love yourself! Yes, you are worthy of looking and feeling good!
 
GET OUT OF YOUR FUNK! This week at MSP...How to have "Super-Casual Mommy Style". Find out how to put together casual outfits that look styled-yet cost next to nothing!
 
What? Retired? No baby? No problem. These easy-to-do outfits are also for YOU! Use this week's article to improve your day-to-day "retired" style.


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"The Great Hair Debate"

 

Dear SYSters: This week I started a discussion on hair. How we style it, how choose to wear it, as well as how much time and effort (using hairdryers, flat irons, products, hair dye, etc.) we are willing to expend on our quest for our own "crowning glory". 

The "great hair debate" continues here at the MSP Forum. Feel free to join in on the conversation! We can learn so much from each other. Please join us by becoming part of the conversation.

 

Here are a few emailed comments...

 

"I Love Your Short Hair"

Dear MSP, I think your short hair is fine, but experiment with different styles of short hair, just for fun. There are a lot of ways to cut and color short hair. Best Wishes, Cristina

 

Wow, I love that hair style on you! It fits you so well. Whenever I saw photos of you, I thought that you were pretty, but something kept you from being stunning. It was the hair. You are right; the new style looks so much more natural, and chic. Blondie

 

Maybe it's because I wear my hair short, but I love your short style.

My hair is short because I have no skill at styling my hair. When it was cut short 
a number of ears ago, we found I have a lot of natural curl.(Big surprise) A really 
good cut is imperative, and fortunately, I've had one person cutting my hair for 
almost 30 years,and he is good. Alice

Dear MSP> I liked your shorter hair.  How easy that style must have been to take care of.  Wish I could do it but have not much body, no curl, no wave and use 'product' and curling iron to give it some life.  Working on a little longer style now to see if it can be cut in a manner to make it look like I have more hair and some body...  As your hairdresser says, perhaps there is a satisfying style out there for me.  At 70 I don't have much time left to find it!!

 
Only advantage I see to longer hair might be ability to pony tail it.  Long hairstyles now are not flattering to anyone who has thin hair and to me, they look scraggly, like they just woke up and forgot to comb their hair.  But that is just my opinion.  And then they are often constantly pushing it back off their face because it is in the way.  An MSNBC contributer has her hair hiding half of her face - well, a third of her face.  To each his own.  Just be happy with it. 
 
Thanks for what you do. Carol
 
 
 

"Not Loving Your Short Hair"

Hello , miss smarty pants 
I am an ex, had a year of your program loved it and learned a lot , applied it and still do , still enjoy getting your emails . So I have to respond to this one . Iam a hairdresser for 40 years 
And learned to help my clients see their better self . It is an art . Like your job and I have to say , your hair cut does not complement you , it is not your better self . If you don't want hair on your neck . That's fine , but you need more bulk , or more with , or fullness on your head to balance your look . A bob , or a 45decree bob , with your sides longer then the back . Would complement you better . 
It would soften your face . Your making yourself look too sharp !  You are a female . And must be your softer self . Please grow it out ,and still keep your neck short . And you will be much sexier . 
 
Love what you do ! But this is my expertise 
Ella
 
See MSP's "before" and "after" hairstyle photos here

MSP's Weekly Style Mission

Dear SYSters,
 
Want to feel style success in your wardrobe? I’m sure you do...so here’s a Style Mission just for YOU! It’s the best way to improve your style one babystep at a time.
 
This week’s Style Mission is to concentrate on one (1) missing wardrobe item you still need.
 
For example, if it’s great fitting shorts that still eludes you, this week go and search for (and try on lots) of shorts—and only shorts! Ignore the rack of trendy blouses hanging nearby, stay away from that clearance table of colorful tee-shirts (I'm watching you!), put on your “style blinders” and stay focused & find that missing piece you still need!

Coldwater Creek CottonLuxe w/ Stretch City Shorts-4 colors 

 

By filling in the gaps of your wardrobe basics, your wardrobe will have what you need to be more stylish--everyday. Remember, it’s the great fitting basics that are the glue of your wardrobe. Stay focused.
 
Love, Leslie MSP

 


What SYSters are Saying

Dear MSP
 
I just wanted to send a heartfelt "Thank you" for all you do. I had a personal profile once in the past, but I just didn't feel it did anything for me so I let my sub slide. Then a couple of months ago I decided to try it again and this time something clicked.
 
I am one of those people who keeps waiting to lose weight to invest in a wardrobe when I realized the waiting to lose weight had become my life!!! So I decided to at least dress the best I could while I was "weighting". Now I truly know what I should and shouldn't wear, no matter how much I like something. It made it easier to donate gorgeous outfits that I can no longer wear because I know that they aren't for me anyway. It also makes it easier to shop (understatement). I live an hour from any store and I am not much of a shopper so I do a lot of online shopping and your advice has made my returns few and far between.  
 
Unlike other praise reports you get, I don't get many compliments on my new look, but then I am a size 26 and compliments are rare, except from my husband. God bless him! But I feel good about myself when I go out and even when I am doing the laundry. However, now I have a new problem! My wardrobe has grown so that I am not sure what to wear because I have so many nice things!
 
Again, Thank You
Terri

 

HELP! My tummy sticks out!

Dear Leslie MrsSmarty,

I've been a SYS for about a month now and I love your program. I must say my style has improved just by paying attention to what I'm wearing and not wearing any more. I no longer wear styles not right for my body type because I used your shopping guide to help me remove them from my closet. The truth is most of it I was no longer wearing because its dated (been in there for many years and dusty) and lots of it no longer was my size either. I have grown in size (unfortunately).

Perhaps you will or have addressed this problem but I need help. I need to dress for my tummy. It protrudes quite a bit and I would love your style help trying to hide it. I realize you can't simply hide something sticking out so much, lol! But perhaps make it look smaller? In the meantime I'm back to eating healthier and my nightly walks since the weather is warmer. Whatever you can do to help me is gratefully appreciated!

With love, Joelle

 

MSP HERE: Dear Joelle, 

You are not alone. Dressing issues when you have a tummy or undefined waistline is a common concern. It is one that is addressed often at MSP.

I certainly do have lots of dressing tips for your undefined waist....however, let me share a quick one with you right now. For minimizing an undefined waist...dress in monochromes (all one color). Monochromatic dressing (typically but not exclusively in a darker color) is quite slimming. By adding a jacket, light sweater, bolero, vest, etc. as a top piece and leaving it un-buttoned you create one long vertical column of color. The all-one-color 'hides' your waistline issues along with the over-piece you've added that create a nice vertical on your upper body.

 

Notice how a different colored top and bottom (on left) visually break up the body VS. one long column of color (on the right) that slims and minimizes a tummy...

 

NO                                                    YES

       

 

I love this vest (on the right) for summer because it's light-weight, yet it adds a certain amount of sass to everything you wear! You could also wear it with a short-sleeved shirt.

Love, Leslie MSP